Why is it so difficult to get the guys ages 48-62?
So last week I posted the following in the newsletter
For the past 5.5 years, one specific age bracket has given me fits! Women 44-56 and Guys 48-62.
Why?? There are so many attractive great ladies for this event who want to do this event, but they outnumber the guys on my mailing list at about a ratio of 3 or 4 to one. That is why this age bracket always gets sold out so fast for women. So where do these good guys go? For whatever reason, many guys in this bracket are reluctant to try speed dating. So here is a special promotion for you.
Know a single guy (first time customer only) who would be a great candidate to go to this event, but needs a little coaxing? If you help convince him to go, you keep 100% of his admission fee. Tell your guy friend about the event and when he is ready to register, YOU call me at 718-757-6933 to let me know the referral will come from you. I will take your vital information, and if your guy friend registers you will receive a check for the full amount he paid. Note: You must call me prior to your friend making a reservation, not afterwards.
I received two noteworthy responses provided below
Response #1 from a woman
suggestion: why not lower the age of the men? What’s wrong with younger men and older women? It’s pretty sexist that you have the “corresponding” age groups at different ages in the first place. Any woman in her late 40’s or early 50’s gets approached by younger men all the time…..
What Jay wrote back
Hi, I hear you loud and clear and agree with you. The problem is that the number one question I get from the guys and the women for that matter is “how old are the people attending”. 80% of the guys are looking for a younger woman, or at least so they say, where 50% of the women I speak with are looking for a younger woman.
Once people arrive at the event, it makes no difference how old people are, just whether there is any chemistry. However, in order to get the guys to register in the first place, the majority of the men want to hear that the women will be younger. We will not mislead people on the age groups and continue to require proof of age.
I have tried events in the past where the ages were the same for that bracket, and I had to cancel because I had almost no men.
So I hear you and agree with you, just that without skewing the ages, I have been unsuccessful in having any successful events.
Thanks again for your comments.
Response #2 from a Guy (Ladies you will not like this)
Jay,
The reason why men in this age bracket do not want to go to speed dating is very simple. These men are older and wiser and do not want to take the bullshit of having a “girlfriend” any more…it just isn’t worth the headache. These older women are heavier, more wrinkles, want less sex and still think that men are out there to kiss their ass (which aint happening). At a speed dating event, these woman are sitting there thinking that all 12 men are dying to be with them (which isn’t so). Men are tired of the three C’s of woman (“controlling”, “conniving” and always trying to “change” men). Men don’t want these old xxxx anymore. You should have speed dating for “older men and “younger women”!
Sincerely,
RG
Jay’s two cents and another guys comments
The above comment is quite harsh in my opinion and stereotypical. That being said, I thought it was best to leave the comment in it’s original format and after getting permission from the author, open this up for debate.
I will be honest and say that I have met some women in their 50’s at my my events who are in better shape and more attractive than some women in their 30’s.
I reached out to a gentleman named “Bob” who has been coming to my events for a while and recently met a woman who he has really hit it off with. Bob is 49 and only came to the events where he could meet a woman a little younger (women 37-47; guys 40-52). Well about 4 months ago, Bob came to an event where the women could be a little older (women 44-56; guys 47-62)
I will tell you that Bob has not been back to one of my events since. He met a great woman that he is getting to know and is very happy. I called Bob for a comment on how he is doing and what he thought of the comment from the other guy.
Bob said ” I have very happy I decided to go the event. I met “Sally. She is 5 or 6 years older than I am, and you wouldn’t even think it. She goes to the gym, watches her figure, and is in better shape than some women in their 30’s. Sally has a good heart, is down to earth, goes out of her way for me left and right. She cooks for me and treats me like a king. I have to laugh about what I did to deserve this.
It sounds to me that the guy who made those comments is frustrated because he has not met the right person. It is not fair to stereotype. There are many men in their late 40’s, 50’s and above that whole heartedly really want to meet someone for companionship. “