Singles, here are four questions you’ll want to ask your next date. These will give you a deeper look into the person you’re dating. We got these tips from CNN.com.

• First, ask them: “What’s the worst thing that ever happened to you and how did you recover from it?” What’s so important about this question? If they start getting upset about the worst thing that happened to them, then it means they’re not over it, and that’s a red flag or possible emotional instability – especially if it involves a former flame. If it’s something deadly serious, they get a free pass to get emotional. However, if they answered that getting cut from the cheer squad in high school team was the worst thing that happened to them, then their immature answer shows that they don’t have an adult perspective and maybe aren’t ready for an adult relationship.

 

• A second question to determine if they’re a keeper: “What do you like to do when you’re not working?” It’s important to get an on the spot answer. If your date says they can’t think of anything to do in their spare time because they’re always working, that could spell trouble. A study from the University of North Carolina found couples with one workaholic partner divorce at twice the average rate. Also, consider this: if your date says they like spending all of their free time playing online poker and you love hiking, this may mean your interests aren’t in sync.

 

• Another question to ask your date is: “What do you do when you’re alone or with friends?” While dating Mr. or Miss Popular is fun, you want to find out if they’re capable of spending time solo. If they’re not? It means they’re probably needy. On the flip side, a man who has no friends may have a hard time with intimacy.

 

• The final question you want to ask your date is: “How do you feel about your mother?” Look to see if they answer in an extreme way. For instance, if they jump at the chance to bash their mother or if they turn into a baby, then there are issues there that you may not want to waste your time exploring. What you want to hear is something like “I love her, but sometimes she drives me nuts.”