With summer weather finally here, what better time of year to have someone to enjoy outdoor patios with and fresh air?
Picture this scenario: you mustered up the guts to ask her out and she said yes! Now what? Where do you go? Where do you take her?
Hopefully you don’t ruin your chances of getting a second date by choosing the wrong first date venue. At NYDC we find that a bad choice for a date is often one of the main reasons of a date going bad. Your personalities clicking is your #1 indication of how date will go , but date location and activity type is a very close #2. Often times, badly selected dates will end the date before you even had time to show your personality.
If you want to score a second date, you need to play the part for the first date. Remember, any place you take her is a reflection of you. So the more interesting the place is, the better looking it makes you look.
So does this mean take her some place expensive. NO! Nothing is worse than looking as if you are trying hard to impress. However, do choose places that look clean, interesting, posh or as girl’s call it, “cute.” It could be an off the wall coffee shop or an interesting ice cream eatery. Go some place you’ve already been to or some place you’ve been wanting to try. Subconciously, when we are familiar with a place, we tend to be more relaxed and in control. This way it will help you to appear calm and cool.
Outdoor patios are a great place to share a drink or an iced coffee in the heat of summer. Or better yet, grab and ice cream and go for a stroll through the park or walk over the Brooklyn Bridge. The activity of walking together with someone makes the experience feel more exhilirating rather than remaining stagnate.
A low key venue like a wine bar or a gelateria are also great places to start. Remember, your first date is a great way to “test” to see if your personalities click. Therefore, you don’t want the distractions of something like a museum, or the zoo. Or, the worst cliche first date you should never take a girl out on: dinner.
Why not dinner? dinner pitfalls :
A) Makes for too serious of a conversation. A first date should be FUN. Dinner = Serious.
B) Be thinking of how you’re supposed to be eat…not too slow…not too fast..is something in my teeth?! The more ways you give her to count you out, the more likely it will be the last date. Dinner provides an arsenal of elements to be judged on.
C) By seemingly trying too hard to impress her by buying an expensive dinner
Don’t make a first date harder than it should be. With a little coaching magic and a good date spot, you can finally discover the dating life you’ve been waiting for.
NYDC Daytime Dating Coach
I hate the ice cream and a stroll date idea. Also hate meeting for coffee. Not all of us even like coffee or the smell of it. The outdoor patio is a perfect idea for me. Then if you want a beer, wine, or iced tea – you can get whatever you want!