You’re tired of meeting people at bars – you’re over that. So you discovered a new and wonderfull way to meet people the “new-fashioned” way so to speak: online.
But there’s a problem. You probably don’t know the first thing about what to write in your profile. How do we know it? We’ve worked with thousands of clients and have figured out the most important elements in online dating. Lets take a look at some of them. Online dating can be confusing and a lot of people make these mistakes:
a) write barely anything or too much
b) reveal the wrong information
c) upload every photo of them ever taken
Sound familiar?
Fear not, we’re here to help. The most overlooked parts of a profile are often the most important. Just by improving these three things, we guarantee you’ll have better results.
1. Username: Depending on which site you’re using, you may not be forced to create a username. Usually in this case, you are assigned a numerical name. This is problematic. Why? Because it’s your first impression. A username gives you the chance to shed some light on your personality. So, a series of number would mean…either you’re lazy, you’re boring or you don’t care enough. ALL BAD. On the other hand, if you chose your name and some numbers, or your initials and some numbers, this signifies you’re probably logical, practical or simply vanilla. Don’t leave it to chance! Choose something that sheds light on your personality and would make a great first impression!
2. Age Range: Again, this is one of those hidden things that you probably didn’t pay much attention to when you were filling out your profile. Choosing the wrong age range can sabotage your chances! For example, if you’re a 30 year old male, choosing an age range from 21-39 can have many negative connotations. For starters, the women viewing your profile (who are much more preceptive then men, by the way), will think you’re throwing stuff against a wall to see what sticks…aka you’re desperate. Even if you really don’t mind dating someone older or younger OFFLINE, it looks severely unfocused ONLINE. So what should you do? Rule of thumb for men: Go seven years younger and two years older. In general men date younger while women date older.
3. Photos: If you have more than five pictures, then we have a problem. Similar to Username and Age Range, the number of pictures conveys something to the reader: The more pictures you have, the needier you appear. The less pictures you have, the better your chances for scoring a date. Why? Look at it this way: Aside from appearing needing with too many pictures, you’re also giving the reader that many more chances to disqualify you. Perhaps she liked the first few photos, but then something didn’t agree with her in the last ones. Instead, choose three to five quality pictures and be amazed. There are also points on how to choose the correct photos: which ones are best for your main photo, what you should be doing in the pictures, etc. [I will cover this more in a future article.]
So if you’re serious about meeting someone and think you’re online dating habits could use some work, let us help you. Online dating is not as straightfoward as it might initially appear. It can be a minefield.
Assignment: Not only will we show you HOW to set up a proper profile, but we’ll help you catch red flags with others profiles and teach you how to send messages that get a response. For homework: Look at your profile and go through the three point check list that I layed out above. See if you broke any of those rules.
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