Women love with their ears.. Except….
Ever hear the old saying that “Men love with their eyes and Wome love with their ears”?
In many cases, this theory really does hold true. Just the other day I was talking with Melony about a guy she was crazy about. She said “when I first met him, I thought he was ugly, but as I got to know him, I found that he was actually pretty cute.”
Now for the exception…….
Personal ads.. I have interviewed dozens of women and the majority confirm that when it comes to personal ads, the over riding factor that determines if she will reply is your picture.
A few weeks ago, I had a date at the Brokerage Comedy Club. We got on the topic of personal ads and the woman showed me her phone. She had just put up a personal ad the night before and had 24 responses over night. In order to weed through, she quickly glances at the pic, decides to respond or not and moves on.
Oh as far as the date, nice girl, just no sparks.. Plus she pissed me off by not thanking me for dinner and the show.
Ok Ok, back to todays topic.. Pictures and Personal ads.
So yes, I admit I try the personal ads. On average, it takes me about 20-30 emails to get one response back. Talk about frustrating!! Compared to other guys I have spoken to about this, that ratio is actually pretty good. The problem quite honestly is that a pretty woman is bombarded with emails from guys who do not even read her profile. By the time she gets to your response, it is already watered down because it is mixed in with several other irrelevant messages. So many of the ladies just look at the pic, just like the guys do and make a decision.
TIME TO EXPERIMENT:
My friend Mike is a professional photographer, so I am going to see him this week and get some new pics. Going to make sure I have a slight tan and wear good clothes.   I will report back after the pics are up and see if the response rate changes.
Jay,
This bugs me on a few different levels:
1. She put up a personal ad the night before a date. That tells me she wasn’t expecting a future date with you.
2. She didn’t say thank you. (btw, dinner AND a show?? I hope you’d at least met once or twice before!)
3. She not only posted the ad, she SHOWED YOU THE RESPONSES!! That’s fine if you’re hanging out with a friend, not fine when it’s a date.
You are *SO* much better off without this one.
Personally, I flip through the pictures to get a hint of the guy’s personality. If most of his pictures are of him partying with a drink in his hand, shirt open, posing with different women in different clubs, then he’s too much of a party animal for me. If there’s one picture of him and 4 of his motorcycle, then he’s not for me. On the other hand, a picture or two with his kids (or nieces & nephews) and he’s blocked out their faces? I’m in! It shows him being himself, and protecting the kids at the same time.