5 dating tips for single women in their 40’s.
This article comes from Kim Sarassin
During your twenties, attraction was the main factor when starting a relationship. There was no need to worry about what kind of job he had, the amount of money he made, if he was handy around the house or if he was good with kids. You hit the motherland if he worked or if he even had a car. Dating in NYC was easier.
Back then friends took precedence in your life and your circle of friends constantly expanded leaving endless possibilities for Long Island Single men to date.
However, when you reach 40 and are single, priorities shift. Your new priority is your profession, children (if you have any) and financial stability. Lives gets in the way and due to your busy schedule friendships diminish weakening your social network and possible suitors.
Add in the current divorce rate and women find that there is less of a chance to meet men and more single women in the similar age range trying to attract someone.
Although it is not a competition women feel that the sea is over populated and are unsure how to make an impression and making dating pleasurable and effortless.
So the question is what can you do to increase the probability of attracting a guy?
First you need to do some inner and outer maintenance. In working with many 40 plus single women I have become a sort of specialist in revamping this group into the dating scene. Many of the women I have worked with are coming to me from lengthy marriages and are unsure where to start.
Some of my tips will help you move in the direction and give you a better understanding of how to deal with men. Some may be obvious, they are common sense and the most important thing is they work.
The first tip is to not split the check on the first date. When a guy asks to take you out he is assuming he will pay for the date. He is not assuming you will have to sleep with him or think you are a gold digger or cannot support yourself.
Secondly, refrain from having sexual relations too early. You should not feel pressured or feel like you need to have sex in order to be able to continue dating. Sex too soon can cause women to have unfair expectations of the relationship. You should allow intimacy and bonds to develop slowly.
Also, work on your inner self. If you are still uneasy, mad or upset about past relationships you may want to find someone professional to speak to. Neglecting your feelings may create undesirable matches and cause difficulty to have success in external actions like single events.
Another tip is to allow outer self to flourish. Although it is important for a guy to love you for the way you are remember humans are visual beings. Commit yourself to regular exercise, take regular trips to the hair salon and if need be whiten your teeth- it takes years off of you.
Lastly, know your limitation, have expectations and remain true to them. Never do something that does not feel right to you. Women have a predisposition to adapt and alter their lives around their mate’s world. Keep the relationship balanced by giving and taking. Avoid dropping everything to suit your man’s needs. You have needs too.
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