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From Tesh.com
First Date Topics You Should Avoid |
First dates should be a happy mix of chemistry and conversation. Let’s be honest, good chemistry can be ruined by bad conversation. So, here are some first date topics to avoid, courtesy of the romance experts at eHarmony.
- Tales of your old glory days. As a general rule, first dates shouldn’t delve into your personal history too much. The person sitting across from you is much more interested in what you’re up to now. It gets annoying if the conversation goes back to the good ol’ days when your band was packing them into the local nightclubs or you were the head of your sorority or when you had that great job that sent you to London once a month. Spending too much time on any of these past glories makes your current life seem less interesting, no matter how many times you say, “I’m so glad to be done with that period of my life.â€
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- Another bad date topic: Health issues. You should keep first date conversation light, and telling your date that you’re having a tumor removed next week is not light. Talking about your chronic ear infection is not light. In fact, almost any medical condition is off limits on a first date. Like it or not, biologically we’re drawn to people who are healthy and vibrant – not someone who’s sick or a potential hypochondriac. Subconsciously we’re looking for someone who could potentially be the parent of our offspring – and that necessitates a healthy mate. Of course, beyond a first date, medical conditions will need to be addressed at some point. However, see if you even like each other before you start sharing your medical problems.
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- Don’t talk about all the other people you’re dating – or have dated. We can assume that single people are hanging out with other single people, but the last thing anyone wants to hear on a date is details about your other dates. For example, saying, “I’ve been on 135 dates in the last two years!†will have your date wondering why 135 people have failed to connect with you. Saying “I’ve been online dating for two years and you’re my first real date†is pretty scary, too.
- Â Bottom line: The less said, the better.