Turn a Fling into the real thing!
To turn a fling into a real thing
The Following article comes from AskMen.com
I believe that most relationship s start off as flings. This is because the old way of courtship practically is no longer in existence. Usually we meet potential dates through friends/family or at bars where there is a high possibility of a drunken hookup. And if the night was halfway decent and the person you were with does not deter us when we wake up and/or sober up, there may be a future text sent to them. This is one way we shack up.
Another way of starting off a relationship is the internet. The regular dating sites are not only used, social media has increased in the dating department. Online profiles allow us to look and judge potential partners from our computers or more conveniently our cellular phones.
Online communication can continue for months without parties meeting in the real world. Profiles and chatting can allow people to eventually meet in person and feel as if they already know each other and the relationship can grow rapidly.
In this day in age, courting, dating and waiting for ones first kiss is almost nonexistent. Flings are faster when we have other priorities such as careers and friends.
So what happens if your fling starts to progress into a real relationship? How do you move in this direction? How does it become the real thing?
Figure out the signs and ask questions.
Ok so you and your fling have been flinging for a significant amount of time. Because you have been seeing each other a while you are interested in moving to the next level. Before telling your partner of your desires, look at your current relationship.
Do you engage in late night texting foe a booty call? What is your state of mind when you are together? Are you sober? Drunk? Do you stay over or leave after intercourse? Have you spent time together outside of the bedroom?
Are you the one who always calls? Or is it an even split? Do you know any of each other’s friends? Or is your relationship a secret? Could you be friends with them outside the bedroom?
My experience is that the best relationships come from when you feel as if you are dating your best friend.
Is a relationship what you want at this time?
When you are curled up under someone’s arm the thought of doing that night after night can be intriguing. But a real relationship is more than that, it’s a commitment and has numerous compromises. You think of the future, how will the relationship grow? After you move to a more committed relationship you can never go back to just a fling. Do you want to be in a more intense relationship? Do you have the time to give?
Coming together
There was this fling of mine had it stated off as a casual relationship we would text mostly after a night of getting drunk where to meet up the relationship was about sex. Then out of the blue he asked to hang out he wanted to change things. With hesitation I agreed but we opened up and a good friendship grew. We had more in common plus our intimate relationship got better because we trusted each other more. Communication was clear. We knew what was expected and what we wanted from each other. It was successful because we were cautious and asked questions before going forward. Although we were more than a booty call we knew we didn’t want the label of boyfriend and girlfriend.
Communication is vital. Not everyone is a mind reader you have to tell people what you want.
If you have decided that someone meets your requirements of what you want in a partner then slowly make your way into being more than a fling. Suggest going on a real date, something small out of the bedroom. If you two are enjoying each other’s company the relationship should progress on its own. When people are perfect for each other it just happens.