How to understand Man Talk
Written by David Wygant- Dating Coach for Women and Men
I got a great e-mail from Sherry who said.
“Hi Dave,
I have been complaining to my guy that he has not been sensitive lately. He said he has some financial issues that he is trying to get through. My issue is that he hardly ever calls.
He wants his space and asked that I give him some room to get things cleared up… says he still wants to be in this relationship and that he does not have any issues with me.
I am very confused. Does this reason justify him not calling much if he truly cares for me? I get the feeling that he is loosing interest and that he is making up excuses. If he cares for me, why hasn’t he made time to call or see me?
This is heartbreaking.. How do I know if he still cares or if he is seeing somebody else?
Sherry!
Want to understand why guys respond like this?
It is a magical word called complaining.
Sherry, you said it at the start .
When a guy complains about something you’ve not been doing, what is your normal response?
You put on your gloves and may get a bit defensive.
This is what can happen.. If anyone is complained about, they get defensive. You will never get a true response if you start out by complaining.
Another way you could have handled it was to ask “Hi, is everything ok with you? I get the feeling that you have been pulling away lately and would like to know if I can help in any way”
Any time you want to talk to your guy about relationship issues, you should talk to him in a calm tone; and tell him that you miss the daily calls and were wondering if all was ok.
Do not complain; tell him how much you miss things; you put things in a nice way.
This way, noone gets defensive.
Be a gentle in your conversations with him.. Do not complain and see what comes next.
This is the beginning of how to communicate with men.
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