3 best times to smile
The three best times to smile written by New York Dating Coach–
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“Smile more.”
It’s such a commonplace that you will find in almost every dating article ever written. First date? Smile more. How do I meet more women? Smile more. How can can anyone mess up such simple advice? Well, you’d be surprised. Think about it. Do any of those articles get really detailed about when a smile is the most genuine or the best time to do it. Probably not.
Here’s the truth: Smiling does help build rapport with the person you’re talking to, but does that mean you should walk around with a cheese eating grin the entire night? Absolutely not! There are a lot of times on a date, when you shouldn’t be smiling. Not smiling sometimes shows a larger range of emotions. Every date has high, neutral and low moments, knowing when to smile selectively, rather than at everything she says, makes for a much better impression. If you have a smile constantly plastered on your face chances are it doesn’t look genuine! Think about where a smile comes from. When you are happy and when your thoughts are positive, you naturally will smile. If you are thinking about everything that could go wrong or anything negative, your face and body will reflect that. But lets just say you’re a happy guy. Now when is the right time to smile?
1) Upon initial encounter: If you’re meeting someone for the first time, it is always best to shake their hand first, THEN smile. The reason is because this way it appears genuine – as if the person EARNED your smile. If you always have a smile on your face, it looks like that’s how you are with EVERYONE. Make someone feel more special instead. 2) When you’re talking about something you’re passionate about: You may already be smiling when you’re talking about something you like but let me remind you of this: When a person smiles as they’re talking about something they love, it engages the listener MUCH more and will help them remember detail. 3) When she does something you like: Two words: Positive reinforcement. If someone has a positive exchange with another person, you associate that positivity to the person you’re talking with. Make sure you do this all the time, not just when you’re on a date. People will continually do what they’re rewarded for.
Homework: Next time you meet someone new, smile only AFTER you’ve shook their hand instead of before. See if the interaction feels more genuine when you do. Antonia Geno & Hunt Ethridge To request a FREE one on one evaluation, go to: www.NewYorkDatingCoach.com , and mention weekend dating in the contact |
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