Make The Most of Online Dating
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Make The Most of Online Dating
One business that wasn’t dented by the recession was online dating. According to The New York Times, a lot of people seek out companionship when times are toughest. Dating coach Evan Mark Katz says looking for love is like looking for a job – it takes time and hard work to find the perfect fit. Here’s how to make the most of online dating, courtesy of ABC News:
•First, don’t use adjectives in your profile like “kind,†“fun-loving†and “curious.†They mean nothing because everyone uses them. Instead, paint a detailed picture of yourself with specific examples. Katz says profiles with vivid details get more, higher-quality responses. So, instead of saying, “I love traveling.†Try, “I love the sidewalk cafés in Barcelona.â€
•Also, pick a good user name, one that showcases your personality, hobbies and passions, and can spark a conversation. For example, avoid straightforward user names like “Bob 101†– and try something creative, like “Steelers Fan.â€
•Another online dating tip: Pick a good profile picture. Pictures that show you doing something get the best response – because it’s a natural talking point. So a picture of you windsurfing will get more responses than you sitting and smiling on a bench.
•Also, match your picture to the person you want to meet. So if you want a serious relationship, don’t post pictures of yourself partying. If you want an outdoorsy person, post that picture from your last camping trip.
•Finally, write a winning first email. Start with a smart subject line that’ll make the reader want to see more. Like, “Your profile says you like hiking. My favorite local trail is dot-dot-dot.†In the email itself, don’t try to sell yourself. Katz says your goal is to be amusing by commenting on something in their profile. If you can make someone smile in four lines, you won’t have to persuade them to get in touch – they’ll do it automatically.
Online dating enlarges the circle of people that one can meet and brings them into areas that one may never venture. Unfortunately, some people would rather sit home alone and complain than accept an email from someone that is not a replica of Prince Charming.
Someone may stumble upon a great profile and an essay that would mirro or satisfy an entire checklist, yet the ugly truth is that he is not a thirty something in a 50 year old body, so no rsvp to the invite is ever sent.
People forget that it is a human on the other end and needs civility and some humanizing on the sites