Age Groups, Hate Mail and more
It is time to open up that can of worms again! Every 8 or 9 months I start getting a bunch of emails regarding our age group policy and requirement of proof of age. Here are a few examples.
1) “Why are all the events listed with the men’s ages always slightly older?
than the women? Can’t you list them as the same age? My friends and I are
reluctant to go for fear there will be a bunch of old men there similar to
another experience we had with speed dating.”
2) “I was a little shocked to see that you have an event planned where the age for men is up to 65 and the women 58. Is this the dark ages? Many women go out with men younger than they are, and to have the upper limits 7 years apart seems out of date. They should be the same age. You are promoting the idea that the man should be older than the woman. You can be sure that if you say 65 for the men, you will have 75 year olds.”
So what is the deal?
One of the top questions each and every time someone calls to inquire is “How old are the people going to be at the event?” This is an important factor in determining whether most of you will participate in an event.
I refuse to mislead people regarding the ages of the participants attending Weekenddating.com events and take a hard stance on requiring proof of age at our events. Other companies have called this childish and not necessary. Before I started Weekenddating.com, I had attended other companies’ events and was royally pissed off that I was mislead about the ages of the other people I would be meeting.
So the ages of what we advertise is what is delivered. We do add a little flexibility and have a one year grace on the speed dating events, and a two year grace on non speed dating events.
Why are the ages of the women and men not the same at speed dating? This is unfair!!
I agree 1000% with the ladies who write in to complain that the ages on the speed dating are different for men and women. It is unfair!! And in an ideal world, the ages would be same.
However, I have tried on several occasions to run speed dating events with the ages the same. The result?? Cancelled events! I had plenty of women to participate, but not nearly enough men. Things have improved a lot in the 8 years I have been in business. Many more men are open to the idea of dating an older woman. However, in theory, the vast majority of men (80%) in my research, want to date a younger woman, while 50% of women, prefer to date an older man.
When we have non regular speed dating activity events (mingles, speed bowling etc), the ages are set the same and the events run great. People are attending mostly because they enjoy the activity in question and meeting someone special is an added bonus. They are less concerned with the ages than with our regular speed dating events.
The bottom line is this: The ages of the women and men should be the same for a speed dating event. It is unfair, but from a business perspective, I need to make sure that enough attendees participate. Once people are AT THE EVENT, age becomes much less important. However, a determining factor in whether someone will register and go to an event, is the age of the participants. I refuse to mislead people with the age groups, mix multiple age groups together.
How silly…a person is so much more than their age…I am an extremely youthful 49, and have dated men from 30 to 70…and THEY are the ones who ask me out!!!
I agree with Jay’s analysis re: the age groups that men and women respectively want to date. The business tells the tale.
Although I agree with Jay on how most people are then perhaps you need to have an event for just the opposite. An age group the other way & advertise it as such. I happen to be one of those that prefers a guy who is a little younger since I am very active.