The Switch
Have you seen the Seinfeld episode where Jerry is dating a woman, but is more interested in her roomate. He and George try to develop a plan to handle the situation. Watch the video here The Switch
Not exactly the same, but the following took place at a recent mingle.
Joe was talking to Marie and Sara for about 20 minutes. He was very attracted to Sara and was interested in getting to know her better. Only problem was that Marie was closer to Joe in proximity and was showoing obvious signs of interest. A few minutes later, another guy walked over and started talking to Sara (the one that Joe liked).
So at this point, they were a foursome talking. Joe excused himself to the bathroom and called me over asking for advice while he was waiting in line. After the restroom, Joe said goodbye to Marie and Sara and took off. A few minutes later, Marie asked me what was up with Joe and seemed surprised that he did not ask for her number before he left.
“I replied.. Do you watch Seinfeld? Ever seen the episode called the switch?”
Have you ever been in a similar situation? Anyone have any solutions on how they think the situation could have turned out positive?
“The Switch”
This is a very common problem in dating and meeting situations. It can be quite sticky and messy if you do not know what you are doing. I have some basic strategies that may work.
If you are talking to two women and the one that you are attracted is not engaging you as much, as the one you are not attracted to….
You have a challenge on your hands.
Here is what you can do.
Say something like– I need to call a top secret meeting and address it specifically to the woman you are interested in.
Say… I need to borrow you for a minute and walk a few steps away with her. Go direct and let her know that you were attracted to her and interested in getting to know more about her. Be honest. You have nothing to loose. You just met these women, so you should not feel obligated to pretend to show interest in the other woman.
There you go! What rocket science! LOL…what do you know…who knew being honest would be such a strategy?! Impressive advice, Jeff Magic. 🙂 Ok, enough with the sarcasm. Fellas…we are not in kindergarten anymore. If you see something you like, say SOMETHING – that is not groundbreaking news we discovered here on this blog. Women like a confident, direct man, that goes after what he wants. Step forward, and don’t be shy fellas! Take that chance…otherwise, the alternative is to date someone you are not interested in merely out of obligation? Or out of pity? By taking her aside to let her in on your feelings…it shows you are sensitive to the other woman, which is important – since they may very well be friends. Remember, guys–you want to get on the GOOD side of a woman’s friends. That’s key. You want the other women friends to approve and to encourage their girlfriend to want to get to know you better! No secret there.