Time to get this handled
So this past weekend, I went to check out David Wygant, a dating coach who was giving a seminar in Manhattan. I was pleasantly surprised with his style and down to earth approach. His big thing was to be genuinely interested in other people and talk to EVERYONE.   Easier said than done!! Just opening up a conversation can be a major challenge for many guys (and ladies too). Â
The Stylelife Challenge by Neil StraussNeil Strauss wrote a handbook called “The Stylelife Challenge”, mastering the game in 30 days. It is a 30 day program that gives you different things to do each day that build on the previous days assignments. Â
As described on Amazon.com “Part one -the Stylelife Challenge is a 30 day instructional mental-workout program; the HOW TO for improving your social marketing; perfecting your personality, body language and image, creating sexual chemistry and attraction; virtually 100s of tips, exercises, and techniques, logically explained step by step.
What I really liked is he explains exactly how and why each facet of your studies works, and assigns you homework. You’re forced to do somewhat uncomfortable things until you become a natural through repetition; till each skill is performed effortlessly. Each chapter builds and expands on the previous. After learning all 30 you’ve got the mindset and confidence.”
Guys, do you want in?
This will be a Free group. Your identitycan remain ananomous to others. Â
We will go through the Style Life Challenge together and have a weekly phone conference call. There is also an online forum that you will be able to post comments/ideas/challenges to.
1.  Buy the book The Style Life Challenge. You can get it used for less than $10 through Amazon
2. Email Jay … Info@Weekenddating.com and let me know you want to take part. I would like to start the group next week, so you would need to buy the book asap.
Other things?
Ladies- The above really applies to the guys. However for those of you who are interested, the Coach I mentioned at the beginning of this saga (David Wygant), teaches women on a regular basis. I am not familiar with his products, but from what I saw, he seems to be really good.  He has a bunch of free stuff which may be interesting. You can check it our here.Â
Guys- On September 9th, 10th and 11th, the Dating Conference is taking place in Manhattan. 25 of the top dating coaches in the country will all be under one roof, teaching different aspects to improving your dating life.
You can get details here. They are currently charging $381 but the price jumps another $100 or so in 9 days.
Disclaimer- Some of the marketing gears towards guys who are jut looking to get laid, but the same materials can be used to find that one special lady.
PS. If you think that is expensive, it really isnt compared to the thousands of dollars other coaches charge for a single weekend. If you are interested, email me at info@Weekenddating.com and I will call the organizer and see if I can get you some type of extra discount.
All the best.
Jay
www.weekenddating.com
718-757-6933
I think that a lot of the issue is that we immediately eliminate people that don’t match all of the criteria on our mental check-lists. I have found that when I chose 3 to 4 core values that were vitally important to me (religion, same morals/values, and same life-goals) and forgot the rest of the checklist (looks, hobbies, etc), I was open to and met many more people who were more appropriate for me. I think that we tend to have a set idea that a “type” works for us, and keep going back to that type, even though evidence shows that historically it may not be a fit. Be willing to forget your “type”.
Also, I think that in NY, many men suffer from “Shiny ball syndrome”… The ratio of single women to men is so high that if there is something small that a man doesn’t like, his attention wanders to that “pretty shiny ball over there.” Part of finding a relationship that works is being able to communicate whats important, and make compromises (not sacrifices). Forget the small stuff, and focus on the bigger picture.
And then there’s the question of if you’re really ready for a relationship? Are you willing to spend time, alter your schedule and let someone in, or do you just expect someone to fit in with you? Are you working too hard, and not spending time enjoying life?
Lastly, but certainly not least, as one of your good friends I can attest that you are a really amazing guy and a great catch and the right woman would be lucky to have you. So go out there, and meet some people!!!
I look forward to meeting her!
Thanks Simone for your kind words!
Any guys interested in the seminar referenced above, try using this discount code which will save you some $$. The code is:
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I agree whole-heartedly with Simone above, especially her take on the ‘Shiny-ball syndrome’. It takes just one small thing for a guy to move on to greener pastures, when in reality, are they really much greener, or are you just finding yourself going from woman to woman, looking for perfection? Women do this, too, and it’s a shame. NO ONE is perfect yet we all look for that perfect person. Time passes by rather quickly as we get older. Why not look at that person for their genuine characteristics, and see if that person might actually be the RIGHT ONE for you? Also, I HATE the disclaimer above that some of the materials in the program described above might be geared towards ‘men who want to get laid’? What is that all about? Shouldn’t it be geared towards ‘men who want to use women for their own satisfaction’? That would be ideal for another discussion, I presume. But, Carrie Bradshaw here is getting ready to go out and find her ‘Aidan’ and NOT her ‘Mr. Big’. Be real, people. Love is out there if you seek it the right way.
I feel we owe it to ourselves not to settle. I found it once so I know its possible.
Its like a numbers game. Eventually you hit. In the meantime, maybe your missing something, not getting the lesson, wisdom, strength or just finding out more about yourself. Infact, your seeking wisdom right now 😉