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“Hey what’s up?”

“What are you doing tonight?”

Do your unreturned text messages to women look anything like this? If so, shame on you. The 3 major problems with texts such as these are this:

1) Misinterpretation: “What are you doing tonight?” is by NO MEANS an invitation to hang out and WOMEN KNOW THIS. First of all, for all she knows, you sent that text out to 8 other women. Women understand that men send out texts like this to “feel out their options” without ever trying to commit to something. Until you put something on the table e.g. “I want to see you tonight” a woman will simply read the former text as you just checking her availability or just friendly chatter.

2) Too spontaneous:  “Where are you right now?” If you really want to see a woman, this text rarely works because it by no means tells a woman that you want to see her. It seems like it would though, seeing as you’re trying to locate her but again, you’re just gathering info rather than being a man and telling her you want to see her. Tip: This is more of a reason why a guy should just pick up the phone and call.

3) Role- Reversal: More often than not, indirect texts are a quick way to get her acting like a man and you acting like a woman. What I mean is that if she likes you, she may end up getting too giddy and asking YOU to hang out or to meet up. Now while all this may sound like a dream come true, I assure you it’s not. Be a MAN and let her be a WOMAN. By acting masculine and taking control you allow her to be feminine.

Back when texting wasn’t an option, people were forced to do things the old fashioned way: by picking up the phone or telling someone something face to face. And while texting can provide convenience, it also – unfortunately – serves as the platform for a cop out or misinterpretation. But if you are going to go the route of texting, BE DIRECT and choose your texts wisely.

Antonia
NYDC Female Perspective Coach

First dates can be stressful. Especially if you haven’t gone on one in ages. What do you talk about? What happens if there’s a silence? Is she enjoying the conversation?Or let’s say you have been going on a lot of first dates and not getting a second date. Is your conversation or lack there of to blame?

Stop wasting time worrying and start preparing instead! Here are 3 effective questions to try out on your next date. NYDC coaches have developed them just for you.

What scares you a little that you want to try?

This is a great question because you get a sense of whether your date is adventurous or not. Also it taps into the emotional side of us, women like emotion and bit of danger. This is a much better question then the “what do you do for fun?” snore fest question most people ask. Moreover, any question you ask, be prepared to answer yourself. This gives you a chance to show off your risk-taking side! (Very Masculine)

When was the last time you had a good old belly laugh?

Laughing is by far one of the best emotions to share and a great medicine for any ailment. Not only that, this question will give you a glimpse at the person’s personality, and also the chance to tell you a story that they think was funny.
Notice, its is not the question “what makes you laugh” or worse, “what do you find funny” both of these questions are bad and unfortunaly overused.
We’re talking about a natural reaction laugh, to remember it you need to feel it. The person you are asking a question to cant just say well that was funny, they need to feel that laugh- that amazing feeling of a belly laugh, that stays with you for a month, rather then just someting funny that you forget the same day.

What world record would you love to hold?

Is your date a joker? Are they an athlete? A dreamer? You can tell an interesting amount about how someone answers this question. It will help you understand their personality and give you another chance to see their sense of humor on a much deeper level then the question ” what are your hobbies”.

Remember, on a first date you want to keep the energy positive and fun. A first date is no more than 2 personalites meeting to see if they’re compatible again. So instead of redoing all of the boring logical questions you’ve tried in the past, try one (or all!) of these new conversation starters!

Homework: Try one of these 3 questions or make up something fun of your own to ask. Just remember, whatever question you ask is fair game to be asked right back to you. So choose wisely!

We have developed a series of questions that can truly change the dynamic on a first date from interview like to a genuine feeling of enjoyment. Your conversation skills play a large part in it.