Cuddle Party? What do you think
So you watched the video? What do you think?
Stand Up University
Our next class starts March 24, 2009 and will be held at the Brokerage Comedy Club, Bellmore, NY
Back by popular demand, we are once again granting our Two for One offer. This means that two of you can take the class for just $275.00 (that’s $137.50 each). However, you must take the class with another classmate to take advantage of this offer. (sorry, no exceptions). Please send deposit as outlined on our website.
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Pretend you are talking to your good friend
I was talking to my friend Lucy about what she looks for in the approach stage.
She said “I want a guy who will interact with me like he is talking to his friends, not coming off nervous or awkward, just being natural.”
Her advice to the guys: When you see a pretty woman you want to approach, don’t look at her as a pretty woman, try to imagine you are talking to your good friend.
Your thougts
Advice for Getting a Second Date
The following comes from Tesh.com
Advice for Getting a Second Date
Guys, are you a one-date wonder? Many men get so nervous on a first date that they end up making a terrible impression. That’s why we rounded up some relationship experts and asked their advice on acing the first date – and getting the second:
Let’s start with the logistics. If your date is someone you already know or is the “friend of a friend†– pick her up at her home. According to relationship columnist Susan Davis, when a guy does that, it sends the message, “You’re worth the extra effort.†However, that doesn’t apply if you met online. In that case, meeting in a public place is the gentlemanly thing to do.
Either way: The guy should pay. April Masini, the author of Think and Date Like a Man, says that paying for dinner sends the signal that your interest is romantic.
Skip the good night kiss. Honestly, the experts are split on this, but in a Harris Interactive survey, only half the ladies thought kissing on a first date was appropriate. Now, that doesn’t mean you can’t offer her a kiss on the cheek.That’s respectful, and still romantic.
This last tip comes from relationship coach David Wygant: End your date by asking for the next one. So, if she told you she’s a fan of Greek food, say something like, “I know a place that makes the best moussaka. Want to have dinner Thursday?â€
To put it simply, chivalry is not dead. If you want to turn a first date into a relationship – do the driving, pay the tab, and end with a respectful kiss on the cheek and a second dinner invitation. That way you’ll both be looking forward to the next time you get together.
Men that cry
I admit that I was hooked on the ABC show the Bachelor this season, and this week bachelor Jason has gone from being a great guy to “the most hated man in America.” If you are unfamiliar with all the buzz from this week, you can watch a video at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s1r7vSl0MYE
Women from across the country have ripped into this guy, with some going as far as posting his listed phone number online and encouraging others to call him and tell him what a slime ball he is.
The saga also raises an interesting debate over men who are emotional and are not afraid to cry. Most of my female friends have called Jason a Wuss, crybaby , etc, however a few have said that that is was a pleasant change of pace to see a guy who was not afraid to cry.
So, here is your chance to sound off about the Bachelor show in general and also about whether you think it is ok for men to show emotion and cry.
Sex Education for Singles?
Hi Jay,I attended one of the single events at the Commack bowling alley back in December. I was the very energetic Morgan.
I am currently at a professional conference for educators in which many of us in the field are discussing how people our own age DO NOT know the updates on birth control and Sex Education.
Since some people are newly divorced, they might remember what they were taught in school, yet need an update.What do you think about offering a “Women’s only” and “Men’s Only” update on sexuality issue for the singles that use your services? I would love to offer a workshop for singles!!!
I am passionate about what I do, and I promise would make the evening fun!!!
What do you think Please comment on the blog if this is an event you would like to see. Secondly, if you do like the event idea would you prefer it to be women only, guys only, or co-ed?
How to tell if he is serious about you
By Christian Carter
It is every woman’s desire to be truly loved by a man. So how can you know whether he is truly serious about you? If you are in a relationship now and want to avoid a sudden heartbreak, you need to know whether your guy is fooling around with other women and especially with you. Here are some useful hints and tips that might help you to understand your guy’s feelings for you are true or not.
One of the most useful hint is accountability for his schedule. If the guy is honest he will tell about what he does. But if he is fooling around he will be reluctant to tell what he was doing during a particular time period. This means that he is hiding something from you.Particularly , another woman. Ask your man casually what he was doing in a certain time and if he goes to defensive mode or remains silent, beware!
It is more likely that he is using you and you must expect to be dumped soon.
If a guy is into a serious relationship, he has loads of long term plans. Ask your man how he sees you relationship in about three or four years from now. If he is serious about the relationship he will give a satisfactory answer. Ifnot it is better for you to go into defensive as he is thinking short term and might be using you!
Okay, girls beware of these signals to avoid heartbreaks. Every woman want to avoid serious heartbreaks and being dumped. Also what you must keep in mind is that each and every guy is different and unique. Therefore above may not be true to everybody.
But if you look at the bigger picture you might be aware that most guys do show these signs when they are not serious. These signs have many faces. So take your time to interpret them so that you can take necessary precautions and get ready when something goes wrong.
To get more tips and a free ebook visit Christian Carters Website
Rejection 101
Rejection 101
Has this ever happened to you? You see someone attractive. You make eye contact, smile, and they look away! If it has, you probably thought, “I’ll never do that again.†Relationship expert David Wygant says that’s a mistake. In fact, he believes the more you get rejected – the better!
Why? Because you’re still trying to connect with people. So, get your pencils out – it’s time for a course Wygant calls ‘Rejection 101’:
The other person’s reaction probably has nothing to do with you. More than likely, they’re preoccupied with something else – like a project at work, or just a bad day in general.
When you try to connect. Don’t expect to bat a thousand. Sitting at home alone because one person turned you down is like quitting your job search when your first interview doesn’t pan out. Remember, a baseball player who gets a hit just three out of 10 times ends up in the Hall of Fame.
Improve your odds. Wygant says when you feel like you’re getting more than your fair share of “No thank you†responses – ask yourself if there’s a reason why. The solution could be as simple as improving your appearance. That means going out in something other then your baggy sweats and favorite Spiderman T-shirt.
Be nice to everyone, not just the lookers. Wygant believes that we’re less likely to be rejected if we practice our social skills on everyone, even people we aren’t attracted to. In other words, every time you thank your waitress or smile at a passerby, you get better at dealing with people.
That means you’ll be more comfortable when the right person crosses your path.
Men changing lanes on the highway
Jeff Magic suggested that I read the book, Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps
I am only up to chapter 3 but so far it feels a little depressing to be a guy. Most of the information presented seems to give the edge to women as the superior sex and is portraying guys as creatures who can’t do more than one thing at a time.
For example, when a guy is watching the television and the phone rings, what does he do? He turns the tv off, or the volume way down so he can answer the phone. What do women do? They answer the phone and can carry on an entire conversation while not missing a beat watching the tv. The book is not saying that women are smarter then men, just that our brains are wired differently.
Hmm, I am saying to myself. This is interesting, but I really don’t buy all of these generalities. Then something interesting happened.
I was having a conversation with my friend Vicky while I was driving on the Southern State Parkway. It was a pretty intense topic and we were talking for a while, when all of a sudden, Vicky immediately stopped talking. This happened at the exact moment when I was trying to change lanes on the highway.
I made my lane change and said to her, why did you stop talking. She said “you are a guy, I learned long ago that you won’t hear a word I am saying when you are trying to change lanes.” I had not realized it, but in my own personal case, she was right. I would get completely frazzled if she was still talking while I was trying to get over.
Ok Ok, I know this is a generality and I am sure that there are plenty of women who wouldn’t be able to concentrate if someone was talking while you were changing lanes either?
I will keep reading further along and share any interesting insights or memorable quotes.
Lipstick at the table
Ok ladies, here is a question for you to answer.
Dear Jay
I recently went to dinner with a good female friend. We are just friends, but I k now she knows that I really want more. She is very friendly and feels comfortable around me and can sometimes be touchy feely (for example, my hair was standing up and she played with it to get it looking right).
After dinner, she reapplied her lipstick and puckered up her lips. Was that any type of sign that maybe she wanted me to kiss her at some point?
After dinner, we went for a walk and she grabbed my arm and we walked arm in arm for a while. Again, this was somewhat unusual behavior from the past. We always had a playful friendship, but it was always me who would have to put my arm around her.
Once again, am I reading too much into this?
Signed
A clueless guy.